An Introvert's Guide to Being Social This Fall
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An Introvert's Guide to Being Social This Fall
Being an Introvert is something I didn't realize defined me until I was in my early to mid 20's. Before that time, I had no idea WHY I was the way I was. Why I was always so drained after hanging out with friends. What was it about big gatherings that made me want to curl up and hide for days, even though I still missed the interaction?It wasn't until I met my husband-to-be in college that I truly understood what my personality was. This was all thanks to my future mother-in-law sharing "Wired that Way" by Marita Littauer.Having a grasp and understanding of your personality will not only help YOU, but others as well. If you've never delved into personality traits, I highly recommend "Wired that Way" as a good starting point. There are dozens, if not hundreds of different personality tests and books out there. To avoid being overwhelmed, I'd start with "Wired that Way" then go from there (which is exactly what I did).You can also count on this Introvert's Guide to Being Social This Fall to get you involved in some fun activities!
If You're an Introvert
While this post is geared towards the introverts of the world (hey-o), our extroverted friends are just as welcome. If you're extroverted, I still think it's beneficial for you to read up on how some of your introverted friends think. Who knows, you might learn something new! :)One of the main reasons I wanted to put together an introvert's guide for being social this fall is because I strongly believe that we shouldn't just "settle". There is a delicate balance between capatilzing on the positives of our personality traits while recognizing the negatives and how to avoid them becoming our defaults. Never think you can’t grow, and never believe there isn’t need for improvement.I'm challenging you, dear reader, as well as myself, to step out of our comfort zones and pursue more intentional relationship building opportunities. You never know what kind of friendships and networking connections can be made if you stretch yourself to be a little social.This is usually TOUGH for me, because I love nothing more than to be at home, all cozy and by myself (I still like having my hubby and kid around, for the record ;). However, I know that it's beneficial to expand my horizons some and meet new people, even if it makes me uncomfortable at times.So cheers to growth and coming back home from these activities a little tired, but with a smile!Related Post: Go Apple Picking
Use Social Media
This might seem like a no-brainer, but if you're on Facebook, you can easily take advantage of various local Facebook Events! I've loved checking to see what all is out there this Fall, from different Fall Festivals, outings with local restaurants, music festivals etc. All you have to do is check your Facebook events and see what is local to you. This can work if you're single, married or married with kids! Just filter based on what would work best for your situation and interests.
Using online coupons was a staple for me when I first got out of the military and our budget was very tight. Using websites like Groupon and Living Social are awesome money-savers for fun local (or destination!) activities that you might not have known about. It's a fun way to see what events are going on, new and old restaurant choices to try out, and a bunch of other stuff.This time of year, there are tons of fun Fall activities to take advantage of... at a discount!
Get Involved with Things You're Already a Part of
Are you already a member of a church or community group? Take advantage of the various activities that many of them already have planned. If you're a member of a church and for some reason, they don't have anything, maybe coordinate a low key ladies night somewhere. It doesn't have to be complicated, just create a Facebook event and invite your friends to meet up! Pick pumpkins or apples or go for a hayride.If that isn't your style, plan something that you know will please your friends and new people. Does everyone like food and beverages? Movie night? Game night? Knitting night? Poker night?You get the picture.
Staying home might be the best option for you if you only want to get your toes just a little wet in pushing your comfort zone. The benefits of inviting people to your home can outweigh the cons because you'll be in familiar terriority. Not only that, you can create the atmosphere that is most relaxing for you, which in turn can be relaxing for your guests.Start small so you don't overwhelm yourself. Others will be able to detect if you're uncomfortable (trust me on that one!). Invite 2-5 people and keep it simple. Snacks, or a full blown meal! You can even ask your guests to bring something to help lighten the load, and I'm sure they'll be happy to help.Create a relaxing environment with soft music and diffuse some essential oils (if you have questions, holla at me) or light some candles.
Give Yourself a Break
Now that you have a few things cooking up this Fall, make sure you are conscientious to your personality and space your activities out to allow you that space. If you're like me, you can only handle a couple nights out a week before you start feeling drained again. We don't want you to reach complete burn out. Set a limit for yourself and stick to it. You might actually find yourself wanting to add another adventure to your list.Do what you believe to be best and go from there! Something that I've done to help me "introvert" is intentionally planning a night or time for me to recharge. I try to do this between activities so I have something to look forward to while I'm at my current activity and before my next one. It's the best balance I've struck for myself and I hope it'll be helpful for you, too.
How About You?
What's your next adventure going to be? Have you planned out what you're going to do this Fall? I hope that this quick guide will challenge you and give you the little nudge you need to make new friends, enjoy new experiences, and deepen "old" friendships, too!
I'd love to know, what are some things you do to challenge yourself as an introvert?