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Welcome to Week 2 of our 5 part series on Cultivating Romance in Marriage! I hope you were able to put into practice some of the tips from last week as we talked about dating your hubby. Next week, we’ll go into some excellent resources that can help get your marriage on the right track!
Cultivating Romance in Marriage
Toys. Toys everywhere. We do our best to keep toy clutter to a minimum, but it’s hard to do that with blocks and board books strewn all over the living room floor.
As a stay at home mom, it’s easy for me to get caught up in the “go go go” of life with an infant; it can drain me! Ordering my days intentionally comes into play more now than it did when we first got married and even after I got out of the Air Force.
Whether or not you have kids, are a work at home mom, stay at home mom or working outside of the home, it’s crucial that you don’t completely deplete yourself so that you have nothing left for your hubby.
I know what you’re thinking.
“You have no idea how busy I am!” “Chasing around 1,2,3 + kids is exhausting!”
Trust me, I get it! I’m speaking from experience from being outside of the home working 14 hour days and as a newish Mom! I’m preaching to myself here, too. Trust me.
The responsibility doesn’t solely fall on us either. Our hubbies should do their best to not completely run on fumes when they get home.
Some days, maybe most days, are going to be crazy busy. My encouragement to you is this, be intentional with how you’re using your energy.
In cultivating romance in marriage, it is important to strive toward keeping your priorities in line, and if you’re a Christian, they should fall in this order:
How to Keep the Spark Alive
Using our time wisely will help us with having some reserves at the end of the day to dedicate to our spouse. If for some reason this still isn’t feasible, there’s hope!
While I still believe you should have intentional date nights with your spouse as often as you can, I understand that in different seasons of life that it isn’t entirely possible. It could be because of a recent move, new baby, no reliable babysitter available, finances etc.
Thankfully, there are tons of ways to keep romance brewing when all of those boxes are checked off and you can’t get in a “normal” date night out!
5 Ways to Keep the Spark Alive with Kids in Tow
In this day and age, we have tons of resources at our fingertips in order to keep the romance flowing.
Fun with the kids:
- Include your kids in a fun night of camping in the backyard.
- Roast marshmallows, catch fireflies, lay on a blanket looking up at the night sky. The possibilities are endless!
- If you want a full blown camping experience, I highly recommend this tent! It’s the one I own. It’s spacious, comfortable, and easy to set up!
- Go on a scavenger hunt!
- Create a list of fun things to find around the house, neighborhood or around town. You can make it as elaborate as you want.
- Once everything is found, go out for some ice cream or frozen yogurt!
Fun after kids go to bed:
- Get competitive!
- Micah and I love to play games when we get the chance. One of our faves is the card game “War” because it’s fast paced 😉
- We also love a good movie or tv show.
- Spice it up a notch by making a low maintenance (or high maintenance) pillow fort with some adult beverages and dessert.
- Indulge in a massage.
- You can play “rock paper scissors” to see who has to give the massage first if you can’t decide 😉
BONUS TIP: I created a super fun printable with 31 topics to talk about with your spouse. Print it out and keep it handy for when you’re in need of some convo starters!
You Can Keep the Romance Alive with Kids
Don’t be discouraged if you feel overwhelmed by the idea of reworking your schedule. I promise you, it will be worth it. It’ll be worth it because your relationship with God and your Hubby are your top priorities. Life isn’t going to be like this forever. One day, your kids will be grown and out of the house starting their own families. At that point in time, it’ll just be you two!