29 Years and 29 Lessons
Ringing in 29 has been off to a great start! When I was a little girl, I would always have a sleepover for my birthday party and I would spend countless hours trying to come up with fun interactive activities to do with my friends. I would make a schedule of events (no, really… I did!) which is quite silly now that I look back on it. What 13-year-old girl types up and prints off schedules to hand out to her friends for her birthday slumber party?! I did! haha
Looking back, I can see how my list making has been beneficial to me as an adult.
I’ve Learned A Lot
I know I still have a lot of learning and growing left in life, and for that I’m thankful. Life lessons aren’t always fun or easy to learn, but looking back on my short life, I’m thankful for all of them. The good, the bad, the scary and fun. They have all shaped me into who I am now and I am constantly striving to live life with a humble heart attuned to the Lord’s leading.
This is going to be a long post, just wanted to warn you 😉
29 Lessons Learned
- You’re stronger than you think
- This one has been learned through many hardships. Firstly, my Mom died when I was a little girl and the only way I got through that dark point in my life is through the love of my family and God. There are many times this lesson has come up, but through it all, I know that my strength ultimately comes from the Holy Spirit that is within me. I would have never survived the many dark chapters that I have gone through in my short life.
- It’s okay to not have everything figured out before you start
- I’m a planner. I’m typically the type of person that likes to have researched EVERYTHING before I do something. I want to know how to do it, how much it’s going to be, how long it’s going to take, etc etc. This has crippled me in the past, to the point of fear and inaction. I’m thankful that this has slowly been changing and I’m learning that it’s ok to not have it all figured out. It’s ok to be spontaneous. I understand that this doesn’t work for everything, but for many things, it’s really ok.
- Tell them you love them
- One positive thing that losing my Mom at such a young age has taught me is that you need to tell those you love you love them every chance you get. I didn’t get a chance to tell my Mom I loved her before she died and it still haunts me to this day. I know she knew that I loved her, but getting to tell her one more time before she took her final breath would have given me so much closure. Tell your family and friends you love them every chance you get.
- It’s ok to say “No”
- This one has been hard. I read, “The Best Yes” by Lysa Turkehurst last year and it was life-changing. I’ve almost always been a “Yes Girl” and at times it has run me into the ground. I have learned that it’s ok to say “No” or “Not this time”. They’ll move on and find someone else. If it doesn’t fit into my priorities, it’s so freeing to be able to say no. It doesn’t mean I don’t feel bad when I have to turn them down, though!
- Not everyone is going to like you
- I’ve been a chronic people pleaser my entire life. This one is still one I’m working on.
- It’s difficult to take the first step, but when you do, you never know where it’s going to take you.
- It’s hard to change. It’s hard to let go of habits that you’ve kept up for years and years, that are so ingrained in you that you can’t imagine NOT doing them. I promise you, it’s possible. Micah and I are living proof that you CAN change.
- Not everyone is going to take your advice.
- This one has been hard. When you see family and friends making choices that you know aren’t the best for them. Sometimes, you have to let them learn the hard way. Tell them what you know to be true, and let them make the decision for themselves, even though you know they are destined for so much more. It’s hard and very frustrating at times, b.fut you can’t change hearts, only God can.
- There is such a thing as “information overload”.
- The internet can be a great thing, but oftentimes I find myself so overwhelmed, trying to find out who is telling the truth etc. There have been moments when I wished that I lived in a time before the internet.
- You can never have too many books (depending on the type of book ;)).
- Books remain one of my top favorite physical objects. I’ll never get tired of bookstores, used bookstores, shelves of books.
- “You can’t always get what you want.”
- There are some mistakes you’re bound to make over and over again. Dust yourself off, and get back up again.
- No matter how many times I read a familiar Bible story, I always get something out of it. The Word of God is truly living and breathing. It amazes me every time.
- You can never tell someone you love them too many times.
- No matter how many times I try, I’m just not a naturally crafty person. I’m way too left-brained which is frustrating. I want to be able to decorate and draw, sew, make my planners pretty. Alas, I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that that isn’t my natural bent.
- Getting a letter or package in the mail will always give me a thrill.
- No matter how hard I try, I will never like lima beans (or butter beans in you’re in the South). It’s pretty much the only legume that I don’t enjoy.
- “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
- I’ve learned that sometimes you have certain friends for a season, and that’s ok. You never know when that friendship might come back around.
- I will always have a love-hate relationship with social media. It tends to stress me out way too much… I wish I didn’t need to use it for my blog and Young Living business.
- The older I get, the more I appreciate my ability to be a homebody. With that in mind, I wish I was more naturally outgoing. It would make social events more enjoyable.
- I will always be awkward, even if I’m only awkward in my head.
- Don’t attempt to read peoples minds. It’s scary.
- Never assume.
- I never, in a million years, thought I would enjoy being a WAHM as much as I am. I will never take it for granted.
- As much as I want to travel the world and see new things, there’s no one I’d rather do it with than my family. I can’t wait for TJ and any future kids to grow up so we can travel the world together.
- I’ll never be too old to go go-karting, make pillow-blanket forts, and read in silly voices.
- Having a kid has been the most sanctifying, fun, joyful, tearful chapter of my life. I am so thankful for this journey of motherhood.
- Seeing Micah interact and parent TJ has been the biggest blessing of my life. TJ is so blessed to have him as a father.
- I’m going to mess up. But that doesn’t make me a failure.
I could have gone on and on. I’m so thankful for all that the Lord has taught me in these short 29 years of life. I know I have a long way to go.
What have you learned in this last year of life?
Thanks for your readership and friendship. It truly means the world to me!